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My wife has a close friend - who I've always been on good terms with too. And recently, after a row with her husband, she called round, my wife was in bed, so I listened while she told me her problems. But then she suddenly said that if I wasn't with my wife, she'd jump me and give me a good seeing to. I was flattered, but declined - and then she tried to persuade me to leave my wife for her! Should I tell my wife what her friend did?

Susan advises

You should absolutely tell your wife what has happened. If you don't, it will look as if you have something to hide.

Even more dangerously, your wife's friend - who sounds as if she has gone a bit 'fatal attraction' in the wake of her marital problems - may suggest to your wife that you have something to hide. This woman could be serious trouble and the sooner you bring all this out into the open the better.

Tell your wife you love her; tell her that the thought of being unfaithful has never crossed your mind. Tell her you were shocked and worried by her friend's actions. Then discuss together how as a strong, loving couple, you are going to handle this.

It's very sad and worrying what your wife's friend has done. But properly handled, it could make your marriage stronger rather than putting it under threat.