Six years ago I got together with the man I thought I'd be with forever. Shortly after I introduced him to my parents, we got engaged. But then my world fell apart when I discovered he'd been cheating with my Mum - the proposal was to throw me off the scent! Now, after after a terrible two years I'm finally back on my feet, only to find he's now single again after splitting with my Mum. I can't help but want him back and I've heard he feels the same - should I give him another chance?

Susan advises
Are you mad? You're thinking of getting back together with a man who not only betrayed you, but betrayed you with your mother, then asked you to marry him in order to hide that fact! You need this guy like you need a hole in the head.

So why do you want him back? My bet is that you never really got over him - recovering from that sort of blow takes a long time. My bet is also that you want to prove that in the end you are better than your mother - and if he comes back to you having split up with her, that means you've won.

But neither of these reasons will guarantee happiness with this guy. On the contrary, I can guarantee he will simply break your heart again. So don't try to get back with him. Don't even try to contact him.

Instead, get counselling with the British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists to recover from the trauma - once you've over him and have got your life fully back together, choose someone who will do right by you!