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Recently my girlfriend of three years left me for another man. It was a big shock because I thought everything was great between us. Problem is, before the split, my ex's mother and stepfather invited me to their wedding - and they still want me to go. I don't want to disappoint them, but I know it will upset me a lot to see my ex with her new man, as I'm still in love with her myself. I just don't know what to do.

Susan advises
It's lovely that you want to support your ex's mother and stepfather . But going to this wedding would be a seriously bad idea all round.

You would suffer the whole day - and long term, it would set you back in the recovery process that you've started to go through. Your ex, meanwhile, would have a tense and nervous day wondering how you were feeling and whether you'd throw a wobbly. And though the happy couple think they want you there, when it comes to the crunch, it will mean extra stress for them too on a day when they really need to concentrate on themselves.

In short don't go. But do set up a more private celebration of the marriage that involves just you and them. Perhaps offer to take them out for a fabulous meal, or away for a nice weekend. Spend time with them, go through the wedding photos - and in general, cement the relationship between the three of you, regardless of the fact that you're no longer going out with their daughter!