Recently my parents have been having loads of problems - my Dad got made redundant and through being at home, he discovered Mum's an alcoholic. He's not coping very well with it, so I've been calling a lot to check everything's ok. I'm starting to feel that I'm the only one holding the family together - but I don't need that, as I've just got married and had a baby. How can I switch off from my parent's problems and focus on my own life?

Susan advises
Right now, I'm not sure that you can - or indeed should - switch off from your parents' problems. After all, they're hitting big issues, ones for which they need your attention and support. My guess is that as you were growing up they sacrificed for you, gave you their time and energy - now's the time when you can pay back.

I know it's hard. You may want to get extra help for yourself in this new stage in your life by contacting Meet a Mum. You may want to get extra help for your parents, particularly your mother, by putting them in touch with Drinkline (0800 917 8282).

Bringing in this support will take the strain off you, and give them professional advice to supplement what you're offering.

But I do think you still need to offer it. Ringing your parents, popping in, and just being there for them will mean they feel less alone - and more loved. This difficult period won't last forever, so step up to it and be there for your Mum and Dad.