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A few months ago I met a guy on an Internet dating site - we got on well and have been meeting up every weekend since. But recently he's told me that I'm not the one for him, as he doesn't have the same love for me as he had for his ex wife. However, he's carried on asking me round. So, I'm not sure whether to hang in there and hope he changes his mind, or leave now. Help!

Susan advises
Love takes time to develop - not everyone falls instantly head over heels and sometimes friendship comes first and passion follows. And given that this man is clearly not over his wife, then it could be that once he's recovered from his marriage he will be ready for a new and committed relationship.

But I don't believe that will be with you. He's already clear that the relationship with you isn't going anywhere - if you want more, then you'll be disappointed.

So why is he still inviting you round? I can give you several reasons: loneliness... need for sex... lack of company. Plus, my bet is that, having been clear that he isn't offering a long-term future, he kept on inviting you on that basis - and when you accepted, he thought that you were happy with that!

As you aren't happy, you need to be clear with him that you aren't - and that means not only telling him that you need more than he's offering, but also not confusing him by accepting his invitations. All in all, if he isn't up for the long-term commitment you want, you'll save yourself a lot of heartache by backing out now.