I have two young children, who are wonderful. I desperately want another sibling for them, but my partner is refusing to even discuss it. We have a large house, a loving family and are careful with money, so I really resent him for going against me on this. I don’t see how any man has the right to deny a woman a child - particularly when I do 95% of the childcare willingly. This is upsetting me so much.

Susan advises
Hold on a minute. You’re talking as if the decision to make a baby was completely down to the woman who bears it. That decision is - or should be - a completely mutual one; the father has just as much right to his opinion as the mother does.

Added to this, it does seem to me that you care about having a child much more than you care about loving your husband. His opinion should count with you and it doesn’t. His wishes should count with you, and they don’t.

And my guess is that your husband is very aware of the fact - it’s that, just as much as the money, which is making him hesitate about having another baby. It’s clear that the two of you don’t have a strong enough relationship to be considering having another child. Your husband isn’t just a sperm donor, you know!

You need to put serious effort into your marriage and turn things round. Then, I can see justification for having another child together. Up to that time, all money considerations aside, I’m with your husband on this one.