Three months ago my husband left our two year marriage with no explanation. When he left he took the keys to our allotment with him. Although we haven't spoken since, I know he's still goes there. Part of me wants that; while he's still coming to the area it feels like there's still hope for us. But equally, if I ring him to ask for the keys, we might get the chance to talk properly about our relationship. What should I do for the best?

Susan advises
What you need to do for the best is to recognise that both your options are motivated by the same aim - to get back with your husband. So be clear about that, rather than playing games with the keys.

Contact him and say clearly that you need to talk.

Sadly, if he refuses, then you have your answer - his coming back to the area has nothing to do with wanting to get back with you and everything to do with his wish to keep the allotment. But if he agrees to meet, then you can talk openly about your feelings, what you want and whether there is a chance for you.

Sadly, as your husband is so obviously steering clear, I suspect that there won't be a happy ending for you here. But try the route of straight, honest communication. At the very least it will give you an answer, and then let you start to get over your failed marriage and get on with the rest of your life.